So, my daughter turned eight last September and we had the most amazing Frozen party at our house. She wanted to invite all the girls in her class, which I said was totally fine since including my daughter, was nine girls. Only problem was this one girl in the class that Heidi just didn't get along with. (I say didn't because we've since moved). Being that the class was small and I didn't want to be that mom, I told H to suck it up and invite this girl anyways.
Well, que to the week before the party and H coming home in tears because said girl told her that her party was going to be stupid, everyone was going to hate it, and that she only wanted to go to the party so she could stand outside the door and tell everyone to leave (as if I'd let that happen!).
I explained *calmly* to H that this girl was just trying to upset her and not to take it too personally...how could she not, right? I mean, I was taking it personally! H begged me not to let this girl come, saying she made her feel uncomfortable. Well, hello?! Talk about feeling uncomfortable. I didn't want my child to feel bad at her own party but I also didn't want to have to un-invite this girl either. Especially since she would be the only girl in this very small class not attending.
Long story short, I ended up emailing the mother of the girl and explaining the whole situation, and boy did I feel like crap after. The mother was understanding of why I was un-inviting her daughter and didn't seem to take it as hard as I was... and still am. The party was a success and everyone has since moved on and not looked back. We've even moved from that school and are not in contact with that family anymore. But I still think about what that girl might have felt not being able to go to the Frozen party, and wondering if I made the right call.
Would you have done the same thing if your child came to you with a similar situation? Am I a completely horrible person/mom for not letting one girl come to the party?