Thursday, February 12, 2015

6 Times Motherhood Sucks


As a mom, I can tell you that there isn't anything else in this world that gives me greater joy than my three children. I swear, I knew I wanted to be a 'mommy' since I received my first baby doll as a small child myself. Motherhood was something I looked forward to and welcomed with arms opened wide. I had no expectations when I became a mom, I just knew I wanted it more than anything else.
Everyday is not easy, nor are my days filled with endless smiles, warm hugs and constant laughter. True, for the most part being a mom completes my world and makes everyday unique and exciting; laying a foundation for an endless adventure that I get to experience with little people that look up to me for their guidance, support and affection. But I'd be lying if I said that being a mom was always splendid and wonderful. There are those days that just don't quite work out and flat out suck.

As I write this, nursing my stuffed up baby struggling to breathe while he eats, I'm overcome with the urge to yell out loud, "THIS SUCKS!". This gets me thinking about how this isn't the first time I've ever had negative feelings while navigating through motherhood. It's hard to admit it but there are a few times that I've wanted to yell out loud during a parenting situation because of helplessness or frustration.

So, from what I've been through and experienced with my three sweet babes over the last eight years, here are six times motherhood has sucked for me...

1. Illness:  From a simple head cold, a fever, or something way worse that lands my child in the hospital, a sick baby or child brings me to my knees. As most parents will tell you, seeing your child suffer is one of the hardest things a parent will go through. We feel helpless and insignificant in comparison to the virus or {sometimes worse} illness that seemingly sucks all the joy from our sweet babe's life. Case in point, trying to nurse a sick baby is no fun.

2.Injury: In the same way that having a sick child sucks, seeing your child injured or in pain is just the worst. No parent should have to see their child suffer, never.

3. Disappointment & Anger: The look on my child's face when they are flat out angry with me, even if they deserve to be angry, is like putting a knife in my chest. And if my child feels any form of disappointment towards me, like when I had to tell my eight year old that Elf on a Shelf wasn't real, that's like twisting the knife.

4. Lying... is never easy as a parent. From telling little fibs to get out of a play date, to coming up with a story to prevent disappointment in my child, I've never felt comfortable not being honest with my kids. For the most part, they'll never know I wasn't 100% truthful, however, the fact that I feel the need to lie, sucks.

5. When my kids have self doubt, I just want to grab them and hold them. I will never forget the first time my daughter told me she thought she wasn't smart enough for something. She couldn't have been further from the truth and I made sure to convince her of how wonderful she is. It's one thing as adults to have those moments where we contemplate our self worth, but to see the child you brought into this world go through that is hard.

6. Having to say goodbye... whether just for the afternoon, a long weekend, or God forbid forever, a parent having to say goodbye to their child is never easy. I loved going to work everyday and looked forward to the time out of the house, but I'd been lying if I said leaving my my kids behind wasn't the hardest part of my day. I've turned down weekend getaways with my husband to stay with my kids. I always feel so lucky that I have my children here and now with me, that I haven't had to say goodbye to them for forever, as I know many parents have. Even though being a mommy isn't always easy or perfect or pretty, I appreciate every part of motherhood, even the parts that suck out loud.

27 comments:

  1. don't forget potty training and teething bwahaha

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    1. Yes!! Potty Training sucks big time! Especially when you're out and about & of course your child has to go when there is NO bathroom in sight! LOL

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  2. These are very tough parts of parenting. I completely agree. Seeing our children sick or hurt can be devastating and saying goodbye can make you crumble. Thank you for sharing this at the #SHINEBlogHop!

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    1. Thank you for stopping by! Have a great day!!

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  3. Yes I totally agree with Shannon, potty training sucked! Thank you for sharing this post! It's always nice to share the sadness of some aspects of motherhood with another mother!

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    1. Most of the time it's pretty awesome but there are some not so great times, too. Sometimes it's nice to just talk about it...especially when most people post all only the really great stuff. xx

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  4. Sick days for us can be horrible.... more when I'm sick instead of Red. He doesn't understand why Mama can't just get up and play! Visiting from MMM!

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    1. Mommies can't get sick! I'm under the weather now and it's sucks trying to act like nothing is wrong when all I want to do is sleep. The kids don't like seeing us sick either. Thank you for stopping by!! xx #momscantgetsick

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  5. Feeling that you've failed them by being grumpy or unfair sucks too...

    Thanks for linking up with our Parenting Pin It Party x

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    1. The feeling of failure and guilt after an outburst not meant for the Littles are def a horrible part of parenthood.

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  6. Sick days and disappointment are the worst, by far!

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    1. Disappointments from both ends can be hard for everyone. Anytime my kids are sad really is the worst. Thanks for reading!

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  7. So far I have only experienced 1 and 2. Other than last week when my husband sat in the car with him while I got my teeth cleaned, I have never even left him. Sick times are just the worst. We've had too many of those.

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  8. I applaud mothers as looking after your children is a full time job and should be given a lot more credit than people give it already. Well done http://www.fadedspring.co.uk/

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  9. Yes, yes, yes! I totally agree with this! Illness kills me - I HATE seeing my kids so sick! :( I love this post!

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  10. Having to say goodbye is SO hard. Every time I leave, in the back of my mind, I think I hope this isn't the last time I see them. But in case it is, one more hug and kiss.

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  11. Always knew parenting was tough. This proves it. I salute all the moms!

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  12. This post is so sweet! I commend you for writing it, the tough moments are just as valid as all the bright happy ones.

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  13. I have so been there. I loved staying at home with my son, and wouldn't ever have changed it. But sometimes I just wanted to runaway and take a break! Now my son comes to work with me at the family business, so we get the best of both worlds. It's awesome, but also very difficult sometimes to get my work done with my almost 4 year old under foot.

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  14. This is so true. I'm not a mother yet, but I've seen so many of my friends go through these same things with their kids. I wish I could help them more and give them more support. It's always a challenging thing, but they are worth it. I can't wait for that adventure and hope that I have a great support system in my friends and family to help me through some of these challenges as well.

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  15. Yep - it's a rollercoaster, as they say in 'Parenthood'. My first one was a difficult baby, and I was sure my second one had swine flu as a toddler - very scary! But they bring so many moments of joy with them too.

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  16. I love posts like this, they just make motherhood feel so much more universal. I hate when they're sick, it's so hard to watch them suffer when there's not much you can do. My 7yearold seems to think she's a pre-teen somedays already I can't image the fights when she gets a little older. Let's cherish the days when they're little.

    xoxo
    Katie
    http://beyondtheclothing.com

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  17. Recently my lack of motivation really sucks! I'm stuck in this rut of I don't know what to do with my toddler, so we basically just sit around all day and I feel so guilty that I'm not providing her with any form of educational entertainment.

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  18. Ahhh this is so SO true. I hate it when my son gets mad at me (usually for something that I did without realizing it would upset him)!

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  19. It is so hard to see your kids sick or disappointed, especially when the disappointment comes from Grandma or Daddy... someone who is not supposed to let them down. We just want to stop them from feeling heartache and sadness, but can't always. It's so tough. Great post!

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  20. I haven't had to experience all of these since MG is still so young but I feel ya - you know motherhood isn't easy but the good times are SO SO good it's worth it! But then you have nights like my last two where your child is awake ALL night long...

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  21. These are all so very true!! Thank you for sharing at #ChronicFridayLinkup!

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