Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Why I Leave the Handprints on the Mirror

Any and everyone who knows me knows that I'm a total clean freak; like, vacuums three times a day, doesn't allow shoes in the house, vacuums the garage, can't leave the house until everything is-in-it's-place kind of clean. Some might call this a tad OCD, I just call it normal. I love being this way and I'm pretty sure my husband appreciates it, too.


So the other day, after my regular Saturday morning cleaning sesh, my husband came into our bathroom and mentioned {as he always does} how nice and clean our bathroom looked. Then, after a slight head tilt and eye squint, he told me I missed a spot on the bottom of our closet door mirror. Two things popped into my head: 1. How dare you criticize my cleaning abilities, you may as well call me a bad mother or fat; 2. Well, then why don't you clean it yourself?! But no, I just turned to see what he was referring to and my mood quickly turned to joy as I remembered that I had intentionally left the 'mess' on the mirror.

See, the markings my husband saw as a mess were in fact art work left by my 10 month old while playing with his "friend in the mirror."

Every morning while I get ready, Jakob gives himself kisses, finger paints with his slobber and leaves behind the most perfectly detailed little handprints on the mirror for me {I like to think they're for me, anyway}. I don't see a mess like most, but the makings of a sweet boy and future artist. If anything, he keeps himself busy so I can get my teeth brushed and make-up on.

I remember when Heidi and Lukas were Jakob's age and I would leave behind their handprints on the bathroom mirror. To me, these markings made from spit and slobber and happy babies are a reminder that a baby lives in the house, and that these hands are only so small for so long. And after the birth of Lukas, I struggled with the overwhelming fear that something would happen to him and I wouldn't have anything of his to hold on to. The mirror art seemed fitting at the time.

I've read too many stories of parents losing their babies, of the struggles some women go through to have children, or of babies who are unable to leave behind their handprints for whatever reason. I'm so grateful that I have a baby who wakes up every morning and walks up to the mirror in my bathroom and happily gives himself kisses and leaves behind the most precious handprints for me to cherish.

So where most things in my house need to be in their place or spic and span, I will leave behind a beautiful mess just for me. It may look like a sloppy mess to some *cough or that I've missed a spot while cleaning the mirror, but I see so much more and am happy to display it proudly.

71 comments:

  1. I love this! You're such a mommy! It's inspiring!
    I am following you from the link-up. I love your blog name and I'm guessing Wright is your last name. Like mine. My blog name: Run Wright.
    Hope you follow along too.

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    1. Thank you, and yes, my maiden name is Wright!! I've stopped by your blog and love it! Thank you for the follow! Have a nice weekend! xx

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  2. That's a beautiful post! I love how you choose to leave the fingerprints on the mirror.

    Momfever

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  3. This is SO sweet ;D I love this post :) Thank you for the reminder of the joy in the little messes...and you inspire me to be more clean so that those details are cute rather than overlooked! lol

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    1. Thank you, Andrea! Have a great holiday weekend!

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  4. I can so relate to this post. I clean and think about cleaning just like you do. When my grandchildren visit they leave their marks on my windows-I have low to ground windows and they are reminders of the joy they bring to me and do not get cleaned as often. Linking from Oh My Heartsie link up party

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    1. Wonderful reminders!! Have a nice weekend and thank you for stopping by! xx

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  5. no..it's not a mess..it's a message of love :).

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  6. So sweet! It's so true! Those things are invaluable!

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    1. Great word for it, invaluable! Thank you!

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  7. Lovely post! I'll look at all the fingerprints over my house in a new way now :)

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    1. Thank you!! And yes, they are beautiful reminders xx

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  8. Oh, I love this! So sweet, you seem like an awesome mom. :) Thanks for sharing.

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  9. Ashleigh what a heartfelt story, that is precious that you keep his prints for you to enjoy, those little hands only stay small for a while. Thanks for sharing on Friday Features this week.
    Pinned for all of Pinterest to see :)

    Have Happy Easter!!
    Karren
    xxoxo

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    1. Thank you for pinning, Karren. Have a great weekend! xx

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  10. This was a sweet post. How precious would something like that be if you for some terrible reason lost your child. I don't even like to think about stuff like that.

    I'm actually going to leave the whole house a mess for next week and tell my wife to read this post so she knows why! :) Thanks for linking up to the #BigTopBlogParty

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    1. Lol, oh no don't blame me! But you're right, when I was in a dark place, all I could think was that the little handprints would be all I'd have since babies can't make art on paper. Weird way to think but you get it. I try not to think about it now, just enjoy what pretty messes I can get.
      Have a nice weekend!!

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  11. I love this! What an important reminder to leave behind little pieces of evidence that keep our kids little. I too am a clean freak and sometimes I just have to stop and enjoy the mess.

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  12. I still have a handprint on the wall from one of my kids putting their hand on an ink stamp pad and putting it on the wall. I just can't clean it off, luckily it is in a fairly inconspicuous place.

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    1. I love that! My mom also kept a marking on the wall from my brother, now 25, and has since put a bookcase over it. She can't bring herself to paint over it. Thank you for sharing!

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  13. Love this! Such a great reminder! Have a great weekend!
    The Keeper of the Memories

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  14. My daughter licks the mirror and plays with her own spit on it. =) I've never thought of it as a work of art... more as "Well, if I clean it she's just gonna get it dirty again", lol.

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    1. lol right?! What's the point sometimes! Thank you for sharing and for stopping by! xx

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  15. That's adorable to keep the baby's handprints on the mirror as a reminder.

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  16. This is so sweet! A great reminder to cherish them every step of the way. They do grow up ever so quickly!

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  17. I have a 14, 10 and 9 year old. They all still make a mess, LOL!; but I do miss those little hand prints on the mirror :(
    This was very sweet to read. Thanks for the reminder of great memories.

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  18. This was beautiful. I am the same way about cleaning my house. It has to be clean. There just isn't any other option. :) I actually don't mind cleaning. I too cannot come home to a messy place if I have errands to do.
    I like that you keep your mirrors marked with those finger prints. This is sweet and a good reminder to myself to allow some things to go. I feel like I am always busy cleaning up hands prints, boogers and yogurt off of everything!
    Have a great week.

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    1. I love cleaning, too and also feel like I'm always cleaning something! Just today the kids were playing with chalk in the garden and came running in the house, leaving foot prints on the clean floor. At first I wanted to clean it, but I ended up letting them stay for a bit because they were just too cute ha. But them I mopped!

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  19. So true! You sometimes forget what's important getting so caught up in things. The window on my car is filled with finger prints and I've been meaning to clean it up but after reading this - maybe it can wait :)

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    1. Yeah, it can wait. I also leave those prints but it drives my hubs crazy lol! Thank you for sharing! xx

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  20. This is the sweetest thing! Happiness is all about cherishing those little things!

    Thank you for sharing with us at #MommyMeetupMondays!

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  21. Aw, that's a lovely post. Definitely like a personal message.

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  22. That is priceless - before long those prints will belong to a big kid and then you make them clean them up!! :)

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    1. Lol right?? I make my oldest clean her mirrors all the time! Great thinking! xx

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  23. So sweet, I also leave them on the back door. They make me smile.

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  24. Ooo, I got goosies. This is beautiful. I am the same way with baby socks. People think I'm crazy. My son hoards them and hides them all over the place. Instead of collecting them every night, I just collect them as I find them. I love randomly running into his socks because of that reminder. It won't be long until those little kid messes turn into big kid messes. I want to hold on to the little as long as I can. Thank you for sharing this at #MommyMeetUpMondays.

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    1. Oh I love this! Finding socks must be nice. And you'll always remember that. I also want to hold onto the little as long as I can. It goes by way to fast! Thank you!

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  25. Love this. Pinned and tweeted. Thanks for being a part of our party. I hope to see you tonight at 7 pm. Happy Monday! Lou Lou Girls

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  26. Love It Ashleigh! Thanks for linking these slobbery, mirror kisses up at the Thoughtful Spot! : )

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  27. How sweet! And it is a reminder of a happy baby!

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    1. Happy baby and happy {sometimes crying} mommy ha! I will miss it!

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  28. What a wonderful post! I will try and look at all of my little ones' handprints all over my windows this way :) Thanks for sharing at What'd You Do This Weekend?!

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  29. Very sweet! After having my 4th my views have changed about a lot of things. I'm not as uptight and I realize that all these things are temporary and very very short lived. I appreciate it all now.

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    1. Yes, it has taken me some time to get to this point. I have l also learned to appreciate it and not be so up tight. Thank you!

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  30. Awww. That's beautiful! I love how those handprint messes represent love!

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  31. Such a beautiful post and I can totally relate as can be a tad OCD myself. This actually made me a bit teary eyed this morning. Thank you so much for sharing with the Monday #pinitparty. A beautiful mess indeed. Have pinned x

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    1. Thank you for the pin and for reading. Have a great rest of your weekend!!

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  32. So precious. My youngest is 13. Now the handprints are rather muddy in nature!

    Glad you have pictures! that will keep the memory alive for years to come.

    Someone I know lost their only son to a drowning accident. The dad wrote a post about the handprints on the tv screen. They didn't notice them for a while. He and his wife looked right past them. But once they realized they were there, he said they decided to not clean them off.

    I've tried to appreciate the handprints more often after reading his story. Sounds like you're well on your way to appreciating the important things in life! :)

    Popping in from the Lou Lou Girls.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing that sad story. I'm glad your friends had those hand prints to hold on to after their loss. {And I'm sorry for their loss}. Have a nice weekend! xx

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  33. I totally agree. Pinned and tweeted. We appreciate you being a part of our party. Please stop by on Monday at 7 pm. Happy Saturday! Lou Lou Girls

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  34. I love the little fingers and hands on mirrors or Windows...Great post! Thanks for joining us at Bloggers Brags Pinterest Party!

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  35. I love this post! It is a great reminder to take time to notice the little things before the little things arent little any more! I picked this as one of the features for the (mis)Adventures Mondays Blog Hop. Thank you so much for making me smile!

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  36. I left my granddaughter's hand print on one of our mirrors. We had her and her family over for Easter. I miss her so much. It's hard to have a granddaughter living 3000 miles away. I gaze at it every day. My daughter thinks I'm nuts.

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  37. This is so sweet! I love this post! :) My nephew also likes leaving his sweet handprints on the mirror. Thank you for sharing this! I am also pretty obsessed with cleaning and I love everything to be on it's place!

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