Friday, August 14, 2015

A Surprise Pregnancy & the Announcement

Two years ago today I got the shock of my life... you know, one of those moments when your whole world changes in an instant. Finding out I was pregnant with Jakob was one of those moments. Now, that's not to say that the other two times I peed on a stick and saw the word "PREGNANT" appear on the test weren't life changing, because they were. But I was actively trying to get pregnant those other times and hoping, maybe even expecting positive results; my life changing moments. But on that quiet August morning after missing my period, I figured it couldn't hurt to rule out pregnancy before heading to the doctor to see what was up with my lady parts.

When the test told me I was expecting sweet baby number 3, I just about died there on the floor. I had always wanted three children and was never opposed to the idea of having more {I'm still open to having more}, however the timing was just so not what I would have chosen {I know, I know, there is never a right time to have a baby}. When you are innate planners and slight control freaks like my hubs and me, an unexpected pregnancy can really throw things off. We had just signed papers to move to Switzerland and half our house was in boxes. My husband had already started working overseas and my overall mindset was just not in the "let's have a baby" zone; more like "move your whole family to Europe successfully" zone.

And then there was the fact that I would have to tell my husband, who wasn't even sure he wanted three children at that point. To say I was mortified is the understatement of the century. I had no freakin' idea how I was going to tell my hubs the news that we were going to have another baby. Everything else in our lives at that time was confusing enough, adding a baby just made our plans more complicated.

But I told him that night, over dinner, kind of like word vomit when he looked at me. I couldn't keep it in and he could see I was visibly upset. He was upset, understandably, but we got through it. It was not an easy time for us and the whole moving abroad, early pregnancy sickness and anger of throwing our plans off tested our relationship and changed my views on many things forever. I'm a different person after the surprise of an unplanned pregnancy, more so than I was the first time I became a mother.

When we told our first two children that they were getting a baby brother or sister, they couldn't believe it. Lukas was just excited but Heidi thought it was a joke. When I decided to make the announcement to friends and family, it was around 10 weeks. I had become so sick that I had to let the cat out of the bag. Plus, by that point I was so stinkin' over the moon in love with the little peanut growing inside me, I needed the whole world to know my surprise.

I decided to make my own pregnancy announcement and I still love it. I hadn't done announcements with the first two {different times without Instagram and Pinterest I suppose} and was so excited to incorporate the older two in the picture.


I share this little story with you because a surprise/unplanned/unexpected pregnancy can happen to anyone and it might not always be easy to deal with or accept at first. Obviously, Jakob is one of the best things that has ever happened to me and is the most beautiful little boy; I would not change anything about what has happened in my life so far. Reflecting back only two years ago and the women I was then, I can't believe how that one little babe has made me and my hubs better people. Even though the experience was difficult at first, I'm thankful for how I was able to move on happily and adjust my plans and mindset. 



32 comments:

  1. What a stressful time to be pregnant! We were dumb and built a house while I was pregnant. Never again will I take on any unnecessary stress while preggo.

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    1. You had a house built during pregnancy? Wow, tough woman you are!

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  2. hat is a great announcement! I didn't do announcements but now I wish I had. As you said, it was a different time. I can imagine that a surprise pregnancy could be very difficult no matter how happy you are having your child. Thanks for sharing your experience.
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    Traci

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    1. Thank you, and yes, what did we do before all these social media sites that drive us to be more crafty ha?

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  3. Oh, gosh! When I read the title I thought you were working on your fourth! Super cute announcement you made. I can't imagine finding out such big news during a time with so much change!

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    1. Lol Brooke, I thought that might happen! I wish we were working on #4 but I think that ship has sailed. Thank you!

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  4. Ashleigh, I think this post will hit home with so many moms and encourage them through whatever they may be going through. Great post.

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  5. Congratulations, Ashleigh! I know it's not that easy to have another baby especially when your mind is fully loaded with goals and plans already. But I admire you for being a strong woman. A positive behavior will attract positive result.

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    1. You are so true, great words to live by. Thank you!

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  6. Glad it worked out! I don't have kids yet, but I know if I got pregnant now it would not be a good time for us either. But now you have three beautiful bundles of joy!

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    1. Oh it totally worked out! I guess you just make it work! Thank you!

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  7. That announcement is darling, so creative! I remember those days, when the additional family member was to arrive, and now they are both leaving this weekend ...empty nest :/ Cute kids you have!

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    1. Thank you! Oh, I never want the day to come when they leave me... good luck to you!!

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  8. I love pregnancy announcements with the siblings reactions! It such a great memory to have!

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  9. I love the adorable pregnancy announcement! Its great that you were able to include your children into it. www.littlemissfangirly.blogspot.com

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  10. I LOVE your announcement!! So cute!! I am sure it all worked out in the end! You have a beautiful family!

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    1. Thank you, and yes, it has been the best year of my life!

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  11. What an adorable announcement! I don't have children yet and not planning any time sooner but I can't imagine how stressful it can be when it's not the time you hoped for - especially when you're planning to move half way around the world. You got this though!

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    1. It was hard but it was so worth it, he is such a joy! I've learned that planning every detail in life is not the way to go! Thank you!

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  12. Oh that timing just might throw anyone off! I'm happy that your family was able to get through it together!

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    1. We are a strong unit for sure, and thank you. Timing isn't everything! It all worked out for the better!

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  13. I know how you feel. My third and only boy was a surprise (every time I say that people get offended) and I cried for months over it. I was not ready, it was out of our plans, we were living with family....it just was not the right time, but Heavenly Father knows what your heart desires even if you do not. Looking back, I would not change a thing. I am happy he is here and a part of my life. My family feels complete and honestly, if we had waited (say for instance, till now) we probably would not have him because we are at a different stage in our life and we are enjoying the kids at the stage and age that they are at.

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    1. It was all in the plans all along and I feel the time timing ended up being perfect in retrospect. Like you, I would not have changed a single thing. Thank you for sharing your story, I'm glad your surprise worked out!

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  14. I love your announcement!! We planned our 3rd (I was newly pregnant 2 years ago!) baby, but it was still a crazy time. I have really tough pregnancies and end up on bed rest - hard when you have 2 little ones already. But I love our 3rd baby to pieces and wouldn't have it any other way! With that said, we are all done in the baby dept!! :) PS: I would love to live in Europe someday :)

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  15. A cute story! One of my dear friends was going to surprise her husband and tell him that they were pregnant. On the drive home from work, he began telling her how it wasn't the right time to have a kid. So, she decided to tell them they were pregnant haha! Of course, they loved it and they were so ecstatic, but it kind of made me think a little of your blog post.

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  16. Planned or unplanned a pregnancy changes everything. I hope my first is planned. We are doing our best to prevent pregnancy right now while I am still in college. But maybe in a year or so our minds will change. You kiddos look excited and happy.

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  17. Thanks for sharing your story. Super cute announcement, too!

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  18. I can only imagine how stressful an unplanned pregnancy must be at first. Definitely a fear of mine! Your announcement was so cute and it sounds like your family is bigger and better and everyone is happy :) Thanks for linking up at the Manic Mondays blog hop!

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  19. Congrats sweet girl! I absolutely love this story! Are you guys moved to Switzerland now?

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