Wednesday, March 16, 2016

Am I a Stereotype?

Am I a stereotype?

Until recently, I never really thought about it because it never really occurred to me that I was one. Not in high school, not in college and definitely not as a mom living in the suburbs. But guess what? That's what makes me a stereotype, I guess.


Last Summer, I took one of those quizzes that people post on Facebook and it was all about stereotypes. I guess I was bored or something because I normally don't do those sort of things. I took the quiz and it was seriously one of the dumbest things I ever wasted my time on. However, once I saw the results, I let them affect me. Like, really get under my skin affect me.

You see, it said I was a stereotypical suburban housewife/mom. I thought, okay, yes I'm a mom living in the suburbs. But I'd never say I'm like all those other moms living in my California neighborhood, driving their SUVs, wearing their yoga pants and sports bras all day, with a bunch of kids, playdates three times a week, mommy & me classes every Friday, and host of a mommy blog. I mean, I write about travel and food and stuff.

Only, I don't exclusively write about those topics because most of what I blog about are my family, kids and -oh gosh- mommyhood. And I do so in my yoga pants and sports bra, while my three kids run amuck and have playdates. Oh, and that SUV... I have one in silver.

I swear to you, when the answer popped up on my screen and asked if I wanted to share it on Facebook, I couldn't even get passed the idea that this dumb quiz figured out what I was before I ever did. How did answering a bunch of random questions pinpoint me into the title of Suburban Housewife when I've always thought I was different then the friends and neighbors around me?

Sure, my kids go to the same school and I write a blog just like so many other women I know. But I'm also unique and live a lifestyle -I thought- was different to others. I lived abroad with my family, had a baby in Switzerland, and we travel quite a lot throughout the year. I'm extremely frugal and hate to spend money when I don't have to. I don't let people wear shoes in my house and I clean almost half my day away (everyday). I'm weird and eccentric and don't care about a lot of the things I find the women around me care about.

But I do.

I'm a suburban housewife afterall. And over the last few months I've thought about what that means, to be grouped into a stereotype that I knew about but didn't think I was a part of until it smacked me in the face. I've come to pick apart the things in my life that give me this title and realized that yeah, I fit into this group and there is nothing wrong with it. If being a comfy mom who drives a nice car to fit all her wild children in, in their nice neighborhood while setting up playdates and mommy groups so I can find the time to blog about it, then I'm pretty darn lucky to be called a Suburban Housewife... a stereotype.

And as a side note, it takes nothing away from all the hard work I put into getting my college education, working my butt off for my career or taking the time off to work from home and be with my kids. We are all on our own journey and this one just happens to be mine.

What's your stereotype??


13 comments:

  1. *raises hand* Hi my name is Erin and I too am a Suburban Housewife! Haha! At first I ignored it, but you know what....its not so bad! My active wear is on point and I'm caffeinated!

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  2. I've also realized and accepted I may now be a stereotype, even though like you, I don't feel interested in a lot of things other women do. My boyfriend laughs at me because I started watching keeping up with the kardashians do is have something to bond with his mom and sister, lol!!

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  3. Oh friend how I could relate to this!! YEP I am that stereotype too. One I never thought I'd be, but one I have embraced and LOVE. It was difficult for me at first to put career on the side, but through my blogging journey, I've realized I CAN build a brand and a career while being that suburban housewife. We can do it all. Girl power/mom power! ;)

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  4. I don't know what my stereotype is, but I'm sure i have one. I work as a camp director and live in the middle of the woods in what used to be an office. I'm 200k in debt and working my damnedest to get out quick - so maybe that's it!

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  5. If people want to think of me as a stereotype I don't mind... however I know that I am so much more than that! I love how you said, "We are all on our own journey and this one just happens to be mine." Couldn't agree more!

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  6. Yep, me too! And I love every single second of it! Wouldn't trade it for the world. ;)

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  7. Hahah love this! I'm in my twenties and probably the stereotypical twenty-something trying five different things at once to figure out my life, hoping one of them works out! :p

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  8. This is funny, b/c although I've never considered myself to be a stereotype, after I read this, I thought to myself: "this...is....me..." You'd never know it from my youth, but I'm also the stereotypical suburban mom- on the outside, anyway.

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  9. So funny! I think we all fall into stereotypes in some way, shape or form. They become stereotypes for a reason. I hate that bloggers have a "type", but I am so one of them - the one in the Hunter boots, with my to-go cup of coffee, with the latest "it" jewelry. But then there are always ways that we're unique! I think it's so cool that you had a baby in Switzerland and get to travel so much.

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  10. I've never considered if I'm a stereotype of not. I'm sure I could stereotype myself if I thought long and hard about it, but it isn't something I've ever seriously considered.

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  11. I guess I am a suburban housewife too but I never feel like one because same as you I don't drive a huge gas guzzling SUV and I don't go everywhere in yoga pants. I dress comfortably but not trendy enough to be like those other moms. So I never feel like I am one of them because I don't feel nearly as "cool" as they are. Ha! I guess I am stereotyping right now, aren't I? ;)

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  12. I dont know what my stereotype is and never thought about it!

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  13. I'm in the same stereotype but the good thing about stereotypes is that they don't have to define you. Yes, the can accurately describe parts of your current existence or even aspects of your personality but that's not the whole you. There's so much more of yourself that you offer the world. You might be a little artsy, all kinds of athletic, vegan - or not, working - or not. You are more than a Facebook page. So while it's great that you are embracing your stereotype don't ever let it limit you. Plus in my opinion stereotypes can be temporary. The second you move back overseas poof you're no longer a suburban mom - until rock your SIV, sports bra and yoga pants. everyday-thoughts.com

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